Do you often find yourself feeling inadequate? Do you feel guilt, shame or disappointment when your tired head hits the pillow each night? Do you feel like you’re just not nailing this whole MOM LIFE thing?!
Can I tell you a secret? Me too. Guilty as charged!
Can I tell you something else?
Conviction is of the Holy Spirit but condemnation is of the enemy.
1 Peter 4:10
God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another.
Guilt isn’t a fruit of the spirit! It’s not serving you or your family.
Mom guilt creeps in and whispers you’re not enough. It criticizes everything about your parenting skills or lack thereof. It pokes and prods at your insecurities and it steals your joy. It tells you everyone else has it all figured out, so what’s your deal?
These are all lies from the enemy! We’re all a hot mess, so don’t compare yourself to others. You’ll always fall short. The standards of this world are unobtainable. It’s a good thing that God judges us by a standard of grace, not perfection. That feeling of shame and inadequacy didn’t come from God. Listening to the accuser gets me nowhere but into a pit of despair. I don’t know about you but I’ve had enough of that nagging voice! I’m done feeling guilty for my humanity. I’m not perfect and neither are you. We’re just a bunch of broken and blemished sinners in need of a savior.
But how do we mute the endless accusations? The never ending comparison, the unobtainable expectations and harsh criticism? You learn to silence that mom guilt by drowning it out with TRUTH.
2 Corinthians 10:5 (NIV)
We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
Combat the lies with the word because ultimately that’s all Mom guilt is, lies we let ourselves believe.
Sometimes I’m an energized, playful and patient Mom. The mom who lets her toddlers “ help “ cook dinner. Even though I know it’s going to end up being a great big mess but a whole lot of fun. The type of Mom who makes up songs about going potty and reads the same book over and over without complaining. Sometimes I’m that Mom but most of the time I’m not.
Other days I’m the cranky, still in her pajamas and barely making it Mom. The mom who raises her voice and repeatedly asks her children to not yell at each other. The divas I say, not as I do Mom. Living for nap time and surviving one cup of coffee at a time. Sometimes I’m that Mom but most of the time I’m not.
In all honesty I’m both of these women at any given moment of every day. My mood may change daily but one thing remains the same, my deep need for Gods grace.
Finally my friends I leave you with this:
Focus on what you’re doing well and give the rest to God. Allow him to refine you and repent as needed. Don’t fixate on your flaws.